supergirlcryI am an ENTJ.  No one who meets me makes any mistake on that.  I display the typical ENTJ behaviors under stress: As I become more worried, I boss other people around.  I start focusing on repetitive and counting types of tasks.  Chances are the executive at your company is an ENTJ and when things aren’t going well he starts telling you what you should do and cycling over pointless daily reports. (I don’t do this because I abhor churning work.)

I have heard that being forced into a different Myers Briggs role is one of the most stressful experiences there is.  But I had never heard of an ENTJ turning into an S under stress.  Has this happened to you?  Have you read about this happening to ENTJs?

One of the most stressful things in my work life right now is the constant discussion about health care payment. You may have noticed that it is allowing the prejudice against obese people to be encoded into payment schemes, abetted by people like John Mackey spouting off about how he can bribe obese people into losing weight when he actually has no statistics about, well, anything.

The thing I miss most about having a lower weight is that I could talk about obesity prejudice without seeming self-serving.  Now I can’t, and now every week someone is reciting their prejudices about me in front of me disguised by false science.  Caught in this bind, I stay away from the overarching concept because I don’t want to stand there in my business suit being dehumanized by their prejudice. I don’t want to bring it out into the open so the N part of me has nowhere to go.  Instead, I become an S, picking off their facts and burying my rage.

Last week I took a statistics test in my MBA program that broke me down.  The test was short answers on concepts and every answer had to include the use for the concept.  This type of test is perfect for an N, except that I wasn’t totally clear on the concepts so I became an S.  For each answer I wrote an example where the concept would be useful.  I can’t begin to describe how I felt after two hours of this- my brain was in a frozen state that no amount of meditation could undo.  A nap did not help. In fact, after the nap I went to a dinner event and mentioned my interest in Myers Briggs.  Someone at the table enthused about Myers Briggs as well and said, “Let me guess you!  E”.  Of course. “S”.  WHAT?!  But that night it was true; I was an S.

2 Responses so far.

  1. Midori Rosbach says:

    Thank you for the very interesting ENTJ-insight!

    I’m also an ENTJ. I don’t become an “S”, but an “I” under stress.

    The most stressful thing in my life is to sit quiet and listen to someone talking gossips for hours. Or someone begins to weep or argue emotionally and I have to listen this. These things frequently happen in the circle of families and relatives, especially when children are there. So I try to keep distance from such situations as best I can.
    When I endure this kind of stress in a family gathering (Christmas, Birthday etc.), I become an “I”. I shut myself off, I begin to check up my smart phone and wish time’s up. After that I feel totally whacked.

    I’m very strong iNtuitive, so I cannot memorise hard facts very well. Hence, my argument in a discussion has always “big picture style”. Actually most of discussions are pleasant for me, except for the emotional/subjective one.

    In an exam or job interview situation I’m feeling confident, although I know that I didn’t have enough time to prepare or I have less experience for the position. I don’t know from where does ´this unfounded self confidence come. After I’m informed that I’ve not accomplished my goal, I’m absolutely disappointed and become an “I”. But this kind of stress is easier to overcome than emotional stress. I usually will go out with my NF-Friends and talk about my failure. They help me to begin “deep dive” to figure out why I failed. So I can set a new goal quickly (e.g. taking re-exam or finding an another career trail). My “I”-state is pretty short.

    best regards
    Midori

    • loafingcactus says:

      Thank you for the comment Midori. That is very interesting!

      When things go badly for me, I have to talk to 43205843843 of my closest friends to feel better. It is hard for me to be alone unless I am very calm and everything in life and work is going very well.

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